I grew up on Sesame Street.
I grew up believing that everything – and anything – was possible. Naively, I believed that the world was a beautiful place where everyone was good and happy and wanted to help you out. Sure, there are some Oscars or grouches. But, most people want to help you succeed. That is what I genuinely thought.
Wow! All I can say is, “thank you so much” for the nomination from Jay Rando and his self improvement blog! I am honored and humbled by the positive feedback and those who are brave enough to ask questions and to submit a topic. This blog wouldn’t function without all of you =) I have to admit I’m a little green when it comes to blogging so I had to look up the “Kreativ Blogger Award” it basically is a shout out to those blogs that you personally find to be the most helpful, moving, or intriguing to read. I love it cause there are so many of us that might not know about the other blogs in the digital world so for lack of a better analogy to some degree it’s like Pinterest for bloggers-minus the pictures :) Anyway, so here are the rules of accepting and passing along this award:
Kreativ Blogger award Rules:
1. Thank the person who nominated you for this award.
2. Copy the logo and place it on your blog.
3. Link to the person who nominated you for this award.
4. Name 7 things about yourself that people might find interesting.
5. Nominate 7 Kreativ Bloggers.
6. Post links to the 7 blogs you nominate.
7. Leave a comment on each of the blogs letting them know they have been nominated
So here it goes…. 7 Things About Myself
1. My first name, “Berkeley”, is actually my mother’s maiden name, contrary to popular belief she did not attend the school and nor was she a hippy 
2. My favorite color is purple…if you knew me in person this would be obvious as my workspace is completely covered with purple items! Second favorite is teal
3. I have 3 pets that are literally referred to as my “children” Lily (Li-li is what I call her) (kitty), Tiny (pup), and Tango (pup)
4. My favorite pastime is singing- there was a point in time where no matter what station you put the radio on I would know the song and the lyrics (from pop, opera, to oldies…seriously)…looking back on it now I should have gone on “Name that Tune”
5. I am more right brained dominate I love all things creative…hence a blog, acting, singing, dancing, musical theater, photography, painting…yeah I like artistic expressions…just a little bit….
6. I’m not too sure if I want to admit to this one…but I have done back ground work for Jerry Springer‘s show “Baggage”
7. I am currently working on attaining the various levels/degrees of Reiki and enjoy meditation.
My 7 Kreativ Blogger Nominations:
http://www.bakersroyale.com/- a blog about every possible yummy conccotion you could possibly imagine…her photos make you want to lick the computer screen they are so vibrant and real life.
http://laurenbetancourt.com/blog/- a blog about attaining a healthy life to the fine details of how we sit and breathe…good stuff!
http://selfawarenessforchange.wordpress.com/- a blog that delves deeper than the surface level of human interaction and awareness- a great read
http://lgfuller07.wordpress.com/- honest, heartfelt, and opininated
http://noratai.wordpress.com/- a reflection upon life and survival
http://toddlohenry.com/- not sure how I would classify this, it’s all over the place but in a great way, there is a mix of humor, photography, and self growth and improvment
http://realtruelove.wordpress.com/- love and acceptance and so much more
What is your definition of character? Is it something that you strive to be or is it something that comes naturally to you? I believe character is defined how you treat others as well as how you treat yourself. If someone needs help do you walk past them and continue to ignore thier struggle or do you stop, listen, and find a way to help? I am not saying that some people in this world might use this ploy to gain attention and sometimes financial gain. It happens alot unfortunately, but then right there that speaks to that person’s character for trying to take advantage of others. And for those of us that do stop when it isn’t necessarily or truly needed does that make us out to be a bunch of suckers…I think not. Again it goes back to character. You did was what right and you helped another persom that you honestly thought was in need. The intent was heart felt and meaningful. And based on karmatic law this will come back to you 10 fold and because others probably have seen this moment of love and compassion they too might be inspired by your actions. So instead of becoming jaded and worried that the next person in need of help is just pulling the wool over your eyes, stop yourself and remember. One small act of kindness affects more than just you and that other person. Live and lead by example not by expecting others to do the right thing, but because you know that YOU need to do the right thing to be true to yourself and those around you. Sometimes when people go to that place of negative and only wish for self gain take moment and reflect and wonder what could drive someone to go to that place, a moment of deep desparation, lack of moral sense, loss of self? We cannot change others nor thier intentions but we can do is value, appreciate, and live by our own.
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Why did I change? I’m so tired? Last year I used to sleep for like four or five hours and I was still energetic, hyper, happy I made tons of friends at school I felt like going to parties and stuff but this year I sleep for like 8 or 9 hours and I’m always so tired, I don’t wanna do anything, I’ve distanced myself from 96% of my friends, I don’t go out anymore I rather stay at home, kinda sad or angry i feel like running away from everything and be myself for awhile, I don’t know why. I want my life back but ugh it’s so hard, I’m 17 I’m a junior but about to be a senir since school is over in a week. What’s wrong with me? Why did I change?
Ok here’s the story. If you were me would you go to a friends funeral ? The problem is that the day he died is the day he was served divorce papers and his wife was cheating on him with two other guys . She treated him like shit all the time. He was killed at a bar from a fight. I just don’t want to see her. But I want to b there for my friend. What would you do?
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Your presence would be there to support his passing and recognizing the life that he lived. It would not show support in his wife’s lifestyle. You should go for your friend, you don’t have to speak with her if you choose not to do so.
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Do I tell my wife about my Love Child? My marriage of 18 years hit a several year rough spell. I began to date a younger person who I told my wife about. My wife and I through communication reconciled and began a great new chapter in our life. After I ended the affair I was told by my former girlfriend that she was pregnant. I told my wife she was pregnant and with my wifes knowledge I took my ex-girlfriend to get an abortion. When discussing the pregnancy initially my wife told me she couldn’t stay married to me if she had the child. Who can blame her!!!. Just my horrible luck in life the abortion did not work and I recently learned she is still pregnant with a healthy baby and she is having it. She allowed me to speak with her doctors because I questioned the “failed” abortion. The doctor confirmed the failed abortion and told me the due date which is consistent with the first pregnancy. Now – what do I do with my wife and family. Do I tell my wife and children or just my wife. I can not live keeping this secret from my wife and I am totally unsure as to how she will deal with this. Please offer advice
My wife and I have been married for 6 years, I’m 32 she is 28. My wife is a very attractive woman so she does get a lot of attention when she goes out, even with me. But we have a good relationship, she doesn’t go out alone other than once a month with her girl friends and occasionally to work functions, although I sometimes go on these too.
But last weekend she went to a party in Mansfield, (we live in Birmingham) on a minibus with a bunch of guys from work and a few girls. Well 3 girls and 12 guys to be exact! Plus it was a fancy dress party with ‘school days’ as the theme. She wore a blouse, blazer, red tartan miniskirt, white over-the-knee stockings and black high heel shoes. I felt extremely jealous, especially as I could not go as I was in London attending a work event, but she did invite me and wanted me to go.
The thing is, I felt a bit jealous when she showed me her outfit, but as I was away on the night I didn’t see her dressed up in it. So this week it was kind of forgotten about and life was normal, until last night when her friend emailed over all the photos. This was the first time I saw her in her outfit, WOW! She looked so hot and sexy in her white over-knee stockings and heels and her skirts was so short! Her hair was in pigtails too so she looked so cute! There was this one pic of her dancing with these 4 guys behind her all looking and smiling, then I saw a photo of her posing really sexy with her arm round a guy, then I saw a photo of her sitting on a guy’s lap with her legs crossed looking very comfortable laughing with him and a guy sitting either side of them. (his hands were not on her though) I just felt so annoyed and jealous… we had a row and she accused me of being a child! I told her that she even went on a minibus with 12 guys dressed like that too! I know she didn’t do anything as she’s not like that, but she can flirt!
It all now feels like its my fault and I am the bad guy, all because of jealously. Do people think I am being stupid and should apologise, or am I right to react this way? I know its not a big deal compared to other questions on here, but I just don’t want to do the wrong thing.
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Jealousy is a normal and healthy thing, as long as you don’t let it ruin or control a relationship. I think I would just tell her that she looked so amazing that you were more miffed that you couldn’t be a part of the party. Maybe you can ask for her to give you a private show Being upset shows that you still care and are interested.
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My husband and I used to do all kinds of things together and not just go out and have fun we used to just sit and talk but lately every time I say hey do u wanna spend some us time after work he says yes but as soon as he gets home he either calls his friends gets on the internet or goes somewhere and after he makes plans he says oh u wanted to spend us time i forgot and asks me if I want him to cancel his plans and I always say no cause I don’t want his friends to think I’m not letting him hang with them cause I used to say that and then they started calling me a ***** and saying I don’t let him do anything im also 33 weeks pregnant and the only time we ever cuddle is when he tries to have sex with me and im not supposed to be having sex right now cause my doctor said not too and he tries like everyday but when I say no he just cuddles for like 3 min more then roles over and ignores me till he or I falls asleep I feel like he’s avoiding me or something I just feel like he doesn’t want me anymore I try to talk to him but he always gets upset or mad cause he says im just having a pregnancy mood swing when really I’ve felt like he is gonna leave me as soon our kid is born or something I don’t know what to do im so scared every time I try to have us time he says its boring and wants to go to a friends please someone help I don’t know what to do and just today he usually calls me on his work breaks but when I asked him if he wanted me to call he said no its pointless there’s only 5 min left he used to call even if he had less than a minute just to say he loved me what is going on with him is he avoiding me
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My boyfriend lives 3 hours away? So I barely ever see him. And he came to visit for 2 weeks. He says he came to see me. But I’ve seen him about 3 times. And he doesn’t even call me or anything. It hurts that he doesn’t even talk to me when I never see him. Should I feel like this? Should I be mad? What do I do?
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I think I would reevaluate the relationship it doesn’t sound like he is completely committed to it. If he is interested he would make the time to include you. I would try to talk with him about your concerns his response and actions will let you know where he stands.
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