How to not lead a guy on, but at the same time not give the impression to him that he is friend-zoned? To not lose his friendship and be intimate like very close friends.
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I understand your question but at the same time this could be interpreted as a mixed signals. What is your ultimate goal out of this, you want friendship that could potentially lead to something more? If you are yourself around him then that’s all that matters. It’s one thing to “lead someone on” and/or take advantage. For example what is your body language around him? Are you touchy feely and constantly fawning over him? Or do are you more laid back and chill? Another way to avoid a miscommunication is when you are out with one another does he always pick up the tab? If you want to go the more friendship route then offer to split the bill. (I’m old fashioned so to me this sends more of the friendship route if you aren’t in a serious commited relationship.) If something is meant to become something more so it will be if not then that’s ok too. If one of you isn’t interested then just be honest with the other- that’s the best thing for any relationship.
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Just to say you have a great blog here which will probably help a lot of people out who drop by.
It sounds like he is making out hes looking for more than friendship (because she brought it up). IF this is true then she should let him know that she only wants friendship from him, if however he has not made the point he wants to be more than friends then there is no problem.
This post stood out to me because i really think that people want what they want but don’t always take into consideration what the other person wants, to me it sounds like this guy may not want friendship if he thinks nothing else will come out of it (logical thinking), i can understand that position. In that manner if he doesn’t want FS she must accept this.
IF the idea is not to give him the impression he is not friend zoned then its important to know why she would want to do this; is she is doing it to keep him around as a friend when he doesn’t want to? If she is keeping him around because she actually is interested in more than FS or because she doesn’t know what he wants then they need to be more honest with each other through ‘both’ words and actions.
In that sense you hit the nail on the head with being ‘honest’ with each other. A lack of honesty can really destroy whats already there and turn it into mistrust of the other person. If she doesn’t want to lead him on she must not allow any bf/gf benefits to come in between their FS, the bill thing was a good example for this. Kissing would be another and so too would be telling the other person they have a chance of ‘something’ when they really don’t. Without honest actions and words it could become an endless cycle of guessing, using or deceiving.
I like that you said split the bill in this post too, its the kind of thing a really good parent tells their son or daughter. I didn’t mean to hijack your blog post btw lol. I hope this adds a dimension to a situation like this. RS counsel and advice can be quite fun
Good post!
Thank you for your insightful response. My ultimate hope for this blog is to start discussions that might help others. So I appreciate that you added your thoughts. We all have lessons to learn at our own time and pace. I hope that you will continue to ‘stop by’ and put in a word
Hehe thanks. Know what you mean too. I hope your blog gets more comments soon because there is lots of great advice here. Will have to drop by again soon.
Thank you