How Do You Relate to a Gay Family Member?
I do not wish to create a political debate but at the same time I do believe it best to state my opinions just as much as everyone else does. When I was very young my mother always taught me to follow the golden rule. It's simple, it's basic, yet it's powerful and can be applied to all things. And of course in this case it is no different. I respect that other people may practice their religions or their view points. I have no problem with this and if this is your truth whatever it may be then that is what is right for you. Because we are all individuals, we all crave two things at the end of the day regardless of race, religion, sex, sexual orientation, and that is love and acceptance. True love and acceptance is a rarity because we all at some point have become jaded to some degree with the poisons of those who do not understand or are fearful of the unknown. We do not understand what we are not willing to know or be open to. I respect Todd's opinion and know that acceptance is a two way street. However at the same time I do not think it fair to say that "gay marriage" is "wrong". This is from an excerpt that he includes and he does later mention ' Nietszche said “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” ' And I believe that Nietszche was on to something that many of us forget. No one is ever truly right...but at the same token I believe that we must strive for what is right for us as individuals and accept that we will not always agree. And also realize that we all have our own path and our own pace in life. For most of my life I have been great friends with people who just happen to be "homosexual". But it's funny to me because I never called them nor thought of them as specifically being "that". I just think of them are wonderful and fun people that happen to prefer the same sex. And who knows you could even take it a step further and think of it as they have the capacity to love all regardless of sex. And to me, why and how would that affect my life... It doesn't, never has, and never will. I prefer to surround myself with honest, loving, and good hearted people. And if that is what you are then we will get along. That's it, plain and simple. I'll take it a step further, what if I am liberal and don't want to be friends with democrats nor republicians? Well...then I've just cut myself off from people who might be smart, witty, fun, interesting, or that might make the perfect friend. It's the same for people whom fear homosexuality, political affliation, race, etc. By allowing ourselves to either ignore these "types" of people or by singling them out we are projecting our own fears onto others. And fear comes from a lack of understanding and a degree of ignorance. Todd I believe that you should attend your brother-in-laws reception because you love him despite the fact that he may love someone else that is of the same sex. And because you feel the way you do about the event who's to say that he did not invite you both to the wedding out of respect to your view point but wanted you to be included so instead he opted for the reception only? This shouldn't be about supporting just your wife, it's about supporting someone you love regardless if you don't always agree. And who knows you might get to know his partner and find out why he's so smitten. :) We all, myself included, need to learn that we are all human we all live, learn, and love in whatever ways work best for us, and we all have the capacity to love, accept, and respect one another, but the choice to do so is ours alone.