I’m concerned about my coworker. I know you might say it’s none of my business, but we are friends, and have worked together for a long time, so I care about him.I think he’s having some problems with his wife.He’s been married for about 20 years and has two teenage kids. He seems to be working late most nights, staying behind for 2-3 hours after we knock off (we don’t get paid for overtime). He rarely talks about his wife, and doesn’t wear his wedding ring. Sometimes I think I catch him playfully flirting with a younger colleague, but he’s not the type of guy to cheat.So, my questions are:
1) Does it sound like he’s having trouble with his wife?
2) Should I talk to him about it?-A Concerned Friend


Dear Concerned Friend,

I think it’s admirable that you are concerned about him but at the same time it really is’t your business. I would approach it more openly- “I just wanted to tell you I appreciate your friendship and I value your thoughts. If you ever want to talk just so you know I’m around” It let’s him know that you are there for him if needed but without being intrusive.