I need some advice on how to deal with this and my friends’ advice has, in general been pretty poor and unhelpful. I just need a different perspective to sort my head out.

I’m 18 and I’m living with my parents until I leave for University, this summer, so only a few more months until I’m gone, I want to sort this out quickly.I’ve been dating an Officer in the forces for the past year and a half. She’s 8 years older than I am, and we’re really happy, things are getting slightly more serious, we’re moving in together as the Uni I am attending is near her base. I hadn’t moved in previously because the College I attend is closer to my home, about an 1 hour and 15 mins from my house, it’s about 2 hours away from her base.

She proposed to me about a month ago. I was nervous at first- getting married young, but I’m much more confident about that now. Why wait any longer? Age is a number.

But my parents have been kicking up a massive fuss. I want my parents to like my girlfriend, but they really hate the age gap. (Which I find a bit rich as there’s a 6 year age gap between my parents.)
They want us to finish, completely break up, and for me to “focus on University”.

Several of my friends have said the “Why not move out” and one of them even agreed. But I refuse to be the teenager who says “My life, my choice” and leaves. I spent ages not talking to my parents when I was younger and I learned from my mistakes. I don’t want to fall out with them. I want their blessing. I want them to come to my wedding. I *need* them to support this.

I want some advice on how to deal with this. I am *not* going to end this with her.

Also, my Grandparents have been kept in the dark about my relationship. I have no idea how to break this to them and then ask if they’d come to my wedding. They’re very old-fashioned and religious.

Ugh. My head is all over the place. I really have no idea who to ask!

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I don’t know the full story and back ground of your relationship but I think you both are moving too fast. If you really do love this girl I would compromise with your parents. Tell them that you understand their concern and are taking it into consideration. Promise them that you are willing to go to and complete college, keep your grades up, and in exchange you will move in with your girlfriend with the condition that you will live together for a minimum of 2 years before you will proceed with marrying this girl. If your girl truly loves you she will wait it out. Living with someone is a major life change and a big adjustment. But it will also show you both if it’s truly a good match. Good luck!
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