My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and it’s been perfect. Lately though, we’ve been arguing a lot and I don’t want us to break up. I know we love each other more than anything and I know that the day we move in together, all our problems will disappear. I’m worried I’ll lose him before that can happen. Now I’m sure some of you won’t agree with this but we’ve talked about our future before together and how we want to have children together so would trying to get pregnant be a bad idea to try and keep him?
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Ok hold the horn here….slow down. First off, just because you move in with one another will not make your problems “disappear.” What have your arguments been about lately? Does it involve him wanting to go out with his friends or possibly wanting space? Or is it something entirely different. Sometimes we want something but aren’t always sure of how to ask for it. If he wants to hang out with his friends then let him. You should be spending time away as well-distance makes the heart grow fonder. It also allows you each to breathe and relate to more people other than just one another (which isn’t healthy). Secondly, bringing a child into the mix right now will only make things worse. You are bringing an innocent child into the world that will have no way of changing or improving the problem at hand. If you are having a problem now then you will have it in the future if you choose to avoid it and bring in another life. Currently, in this case bringing a child into the world right now would just add more pressure and an added responsibility for each of you to handle. It’s an 18 year commitment-that’s a very big deal for some people! I would try and figure out what the route of your arguments are generally about. There should be a common theme- once you find it focus on fixing it. Sometimes, people grow apart and sometimes people just want some time to themselves as well.

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