Should I file for divorce? I pushed my wife away to the point of no return and we finally moved out of our current place but she left months ago. I just barely moved out and she moved on and started a new relationship days after she left me with someone she had been talking to for who knws how long on the web. Well I’m really regreting that I couldn’t act more like a man and be mature about this. All I did was cry and a dig a deeper whole for myself and my life (with the law ) and she doesn’t know nothing. And I don’t think she should know, but all I showed her was my weak side and she took advantage of it but now I wish that I could’ve been good and more of a grown up  so we can at least be friends. I don’t think I can hear her tell me anything about his guy, but I would like to spend time with her and do things with her. We haven’t filed, but she said she didn’t want anything to do with me. Should I just go ahead and do it and show her that I’m being a man and doing this now and not waiting for her to do it. Or is she just holding off to see what she can get out of me or is waiting for a change from me and then come back after 3 or 4 maybe 6 months….its been 3 months already and she is happy and never hits me up, and does not say **** to me on weekends ever since she left, just on weekdays when she wanted something, and  well not even during the weekday anymore cuz we finally moved out. What should I do? I’m so confused and I still love her.

It is a bit unsettling to hear that she started a new relationship days after you separated. There was no time for her to process this transition unless she had already detached long before. I understand that you still love her. And maybe the best thing you can do is ask her if there is any hope in her eyes in seeing this work. From what you have mentioned it sounds like she has already moved on. If her answer is no then it’s time to let it go. If her answer is yes then you both need to see a marriage counselor immediately. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with a man crying. It’s frustrating to see men beat themselves up over such a much needed and necessary release of emotions. You love her and you are processing this. Take all the time you need, but from what you’ve described I think it would be helpful to let go.
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