Tag Archive: life

Finding Self


It’s been quite some time since I posted a blog, I ask for forgiveness from my fellow bloggers as that is a BIG no-no! But to be honest, I think that if the content that is provided is good and people enjoy what I bring then maybe I should go against the grain and not try to live up to someone else’s expectation of me let along the expectations I put on myself. And that alone is what I wanted to explore today. In my haitus of not composing this blog I have been doing my usual routine but on top of all that I have been exploring and reigniting my passions for singing and musical theater, preparing for my husband’s transition from Marine back to civilian, exploring my thoughts and ideas about my future career, and further connecting with my spiritual endeavors. It’s been a lot, and so much has transpired that there is no way in one posting could I ever explain all of it. One major pivitol lession that has come to light is how I view myself and how others view me. There was a time when I could careless what others thought of me, however things changed and support systems were removed/distanced and I lost self. But with all of this so much has changed and so much has been learned. I am reestablishing who I am and who I want to become. And I am grateful for every moment that has occured to get me to where I am now and where I plan on going to next. And in viewing myself with more grace and acceptance others are starting to follow suite as well. It’s about creating goals but also boundaries for others. Self-respect and self-love at the fore front. When we take care of ourselves the rest will follow is a true and valid statement.  I will do my best to post on a regular basis however I do not believe that daily will be possible anymore. I will try but no guarantees. I want to keep living my life and learning along the way.  And my hope and ulitmate desire is for others to learn and grow right along with me. So many people in this world focus on the negative then become bitter because someone else didn’t do the right thing. The only person whom we can be accountable for is ourselves. Hold yourself true to who you are and be opening and willing to learn from your mistakes. We are all here to help each other and push through this together. Don’t shy away because one person or a few people just aren’t ready for this type of lifestyle. Follow your heart and your path the rest will follow.



A Message From The Creator




“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lives”

-Mother Theresa

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Balance is essential and we all have our moments where we have to regain perspective. Enjoy the read 😉

Aspirations, Hopes, & Dreams

What do you dream about? What would be your wildest aspiration? And if you could have that hope and dream become a reality would you wish for something more? I think one the most challenging things about dreams is attempting to find balance. And what I mean by balance is being able to be grateful and appreciative of what you have, yet at the same time to still have hopes and dreams for more. It sounds oxymoronic (I am not even sure if that’s an actual word…but it sounds nice right?) but it is a fine line. Dreams and goals help us challenge and push ourselves to do more in our lives. Yet, being happy with the small things and benefits that are normally taken for granted allows us to be humble. So how does one walk the tight rope of dreams and still remain content with what is provided to us? I think the best way is to allow your goals and dreams to fulfill your needs as well as others when possible. If we are able to give back to others and yet also pursue what we desire we are able to find balance. What are your thoughts ?

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Defining Character

What is your definition of character? Is it something that you strive to be or is it something that comes naturally to you? I believe character is defined how you treat others as well as how you treat yourself. If someone needs help do you walk past them and continue to ignore thier struggle or do you stop, listen, and find a way to help? I am not saying that some people in this world might use this ploy to gain attention and sometimes financial gain. It happens alot unfortunately, but then right there that speaks to that person’s character for trying to take advantage of others. And for those of us that do stop when it isn’t necessarily or truly needed does that make us out to be a bunch of suckers…I think not. Again it goes back to character. You did was what right and you helped another persom that you honestly thought was in need. The intent was heart felt and meaningful. And based on karmatic law this will come back  to you 10 fold and because others probably have seen this moment of love and compassion they too might be inspired by your actions. So instead of becoming jaded and worried that the next person in need of help is just pulling the wool over your eyes, stop yourself and remember. One small act of kindness affects more than just you and that other person. Live and lead by example not by expecting others to do the right thing, but because you know that YOU need to do the right thing to be true to yourself and those around you. Sometimes when people go to that place of negative and only wish for self gain take moment and reflect and wonder what could drive someone to go to that place, a moment of deep desparation, lack of moral sense, loss of self? We cannot change others nor thier intentions but we can do is value, appreciate, and live by our own.

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A Map Back to Myself

For as long as I can remember I have had issues with worrying about everyone else’s problems instead of dealing with my own. I have also always been lovingly referred to as “mom” by most of my friends. The thing is they know they can come to me when times are hard and when things get rough. And they know that I will be honest, direct, and truthful in my advice. I know that this is a unique gift (or atleast I have been told that’s it’s a rare gift)  So I enjoy helping others that I do not know by providing insight into life’s random and sometimes confusing moments. However, there is a fine line in helping and losing ones self in everyone else. And I will admit that I have fallen victim to doing this. But, the good news is that you aren’t completely lost! With some patience and some effort you can get back to yourself and your happiness. For me this took some time but what I found worked was doing things that I found interesting and that made me happy. Things that were for me, and me alone and no one else. It sounds selfish but we must do what is best for ourselves. When we take care of ourselves in turn we are better equipped to help others. It’s a vaulable lesson that I am still practicing and shaping for my future. What are your experiences with life and finding your bliss?

*If you have a question or would like to submit a topic please email me at honestgoodadvice@gmail.com

Week of Quotes Day 4 – Humor

{When people tell me I am weird I say, “Thank you ” 🙂 }
Sometimes moments in life make us laugh- a wonderful and much needed diversion from the mundane 🙂 It’s crazy when you think of all the quotes that are out there and how many different variations of humor people find appealing. I have to say I probably have a more dry off the wall since of humor so not sure if you will be entertained by these or not. Let’s just say I find humor in some of the most random of moments in life- I can thank my grandmother for that 🙂 Regardless, please feel free to add your favorite quotes that you have found to be humorous. Advice will continue next week, so if you have a question or would like to submit a topic please email me at honestgoodadvice@gmail.com

“I may be a smart ass….but it’s so much better than being a dumb ass” -Berkeley Clements

“If I off myself, it’ll be in a lobster costume in the hot tub with butter…” -Anonymous

“Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday” – Don Marquis

“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.”
– Dennis Wholey

“Be obscure clearly” – E.B. White

“Because of their size, parents may be difficult to discipline properly – P.J. O’Rourke

“Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes” – Jim Carrey

Week of Quotes Day 2 – Life

Day 2 of a week of quotes! This time I decided to focus on quotes that speak to life as a whole or that might make you think and reflect. Enjoy! And again if you have a quote that you deem worthy of this posting please provide it in the comment section below.

**Advice will continue in a  week so if you have a question or wish to submit a topic please email me at honestgoodadvice@gmail.com**

“You can’t have everything… where would you put it?” – Steven Wright

” I have found that if you love life, life will love you back” – Arthur Rubinstein

Week of Quotes Day 1 – Music

I am taking a break from advice responses this week to highlight a few quotes that I have come across that have touched or moved me at some point in my life. Today I have decided to focus on quotes that discuss music. When I was younger I wrote poetry, quite frequently in fact. As I’ve gotten older and busier (or so it seems) I really don’t have the time to play with words on paper as much as I would like. And I have always been a huge fan of music my entire life. People generally ask, “What type of music do you like?” I reply, “All of it, everything from rap to opera…yes seriously” If something strikes a chord (pun intended 🙂 ) with me then it just resonates within my soul and heart. Poetry put to music creates a song that creates a long lasting impression. In fact, when hearing an old song it instantaneously invokes a memory  that I might have long since forgotten. So here are a list of quotes that for myself personally explain what music means to me. If you have music related quotes (not lyrics…save those for a future posting:) ) then please add them in a comment below.

“I haven’t understood a bar of music in my life, but I have felt it.”- Igor Stravinsky

“Music is the voice that tells us that the human race is greater than it knows” – Napolean Bonaparte

**Advice will continue in a week, if you have a question or would like to submit a topic please email me at honestgoodadvice@gmail.com**