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His fiancé won’t let us be friends anymore? When my brother was younger his best friend used to come to our house all the time. I got to know him really well. We stayed in touch when he went to college, and I saw him when he came home. But hes now engaged and his fiancé absolutely hates me. I only met her a few times, and she was really rude and dismissive to me for no good reason. Also, he says she doesn’t like when he talks to me and wants him to unfriend me on fb. He refused, but we’re definitely talking a lot less now. The worst part is, I’m not even invited to their wedding and my brother is. I acted like it wasn’t a big deal, but it hurts so much. What is her problem? I hate that shes controlling him like this, and that hes going along with it. I’ve known him since I was like 10 and I’m almost 17 now so I’ve known him a reallllly long time. So it’s extremely dumb and pathetic that she’s threatened by me, when my friendship with him is NOTHING like that. What do I do?
Ok here’s the story. If you were me would you go to a friends funeral ? The problem is that the day he died is the day he was served divorce papers and his wife was cheating on him with two other guys . She treated him like shit all the time. He was killed at a bar from a fight. I just don’t want to see her. But I want to b there for my friend. What would you do?
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Your presence would be there to support his passing and recognizing the life that he lived. It would not show support in his wife’s lifestyle. You should go for your friend, you don’t have to speak with her if you choose not to do so.
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How to not lead a guy on, but at the same time not give the impression to him that he is friend-zoned? To not lose his friendship and be intimate like very close friends.
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I understand your question but at the same time this could be interpreted as a mixed signals. What is your ultimate goal out of this, you want friendship that could potentially lead to something more? If you are yourself around him then that’s all that matters. It’s one thing to “lead someone on” and/or take advantage. For example what is your body language around him? Are you touchy feely and constantly fawning over him? Or do are you more laid back and chill? Another way to avoid a miscommunication is when you are out with one another does he always pick up the tab? If you want to go the more friendship route then offer to split the bill. (I’m old fashioned so to me this sends more of the friendship route if you aren’t in a serious commited relationship.) If something is meant to become something more so it will be if not then that’s ok too. If one of you isn’t interested then just be honest with the other- that’s the best thing for any relationship.
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This past weekend was a milestone birthday for me. A turning point in my life that I am actually excited about. Instead of feeling “old” I feel more aware, wiser, and that I have gained a better perspective of life as a whole. One thing that I have learned is that if you surround yourself with positive and loving people you can accomplish almost anything. I’ve made a few friends in my past who didn’t view friendship as sacred as I did and still do. And for whatever the reason at the time held on to those relationships hoping for the best in those people, even if it wasn’t healthy. Now when I meet new people I just role with it and if something doesn’t sit well I move one- no harm no foul. I believe sometimes people are put into our lives to help us resolve something, provide balance or support for a life change, or to fulfill a void. Some might be brief others a lifetime. Either way what it boils down to we all need each other in order to thrive and move forward. To me, those that I surrounded myself with are my second family. People that bring out the best in me as well as others. Those who aren’t afraid to be honest with me about their thoughts and feelings about our friendship or anything else. Friends who can provide an outside perspective when I’ve become too wrapped up in something. Who know my weaknesses yet also know how to motivate me to push past my fears. Those that have learned a lesson and in the process has shared that lesson with me. Someone who doesn’t judge me for my failures but encourages me to continue on. Acquaintances are a dime a dozen, but true friends that last a lifetime are few and far between. I ask those that read this blog today to take a minute and reflect back on all of your past and current friendships. What did that person mean to you? What did they teach you or what did you learn about yourself? What makes your friendships today successful?
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I normally eat lunch with her and another friend on Fridays. Today is her birthday. Why is she acting like this to me and not everybody else?
Backstabbing “friend” needs to be taught a lesson, any help or ideas?! I will take anything into consideration? My “friend” basically told people that I cheated on my ex, when of course I didn’t, everybody else has taken my side however she keeps saying it, and it’s just making me feel down. She basically ruined our relationship and she’s done this to my other friend twice aswell, she’s a right bit*h and I need something or some way that I can get back at her. She really needs to be taught a lesson, I recently found out she liked my ex which is why she made that up. However I still think she has feelings for her ex as well, how can I really get back at her, and make her feel like I did, but without getting into too much trouble myself? Please help, I will basically do anything haha! Any ideas at all will be appreciated and thought about!
What’s the proper way to handle the breakup of another married couple when you choose different sides? My best friend is divorcing a friend of hers. We each see the other soon to be ex-spouse as the bad guy. What to do?
-Torn
I am having a really simple wedding. I want it to look casual and simple. I feel like I am far from a monster bride. I have not asked my bridesmaids to do ANYTHING…like no help, no dress fittings. I bought all of their dresses and said I was more than happy to pay for hair and make up. I bought their shoes and paid for the hotels for all of them for the night before. I am not even wanting or expecting a bachelorette party or shower because I have been married before.One of the FEW things I have asked is for everyone to wear their hair down. I am wearing my hair down and I think a updo would look too formal. One of the bridesmaids has basically told me she doesn’t want to wear her hair down and she intends to pay a professional to give her an elaborate updo. I have tried asking nicely and all I basically got was a “what are you going to do about it?”If I kick her out of the wedding it will create incredible drama with my friends, which I don’t need. But I feel like it’s tacky to have her with a more involved hairstyle than anyone else, including me would have. What would you do?
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